Scarfs fashion statement

Since 9/11 (maybe even before then but it’s never been on my radar) I have noticed scarfs haven’t been worn like they classically would. Nowadays, wearing a scarf over your head would make you ‘one of them’. People are afraid to wear something a particular way because they are afraid of the stigma of being associated with a Muslim custom. What a load of crap! If it is fashionable or your own style then you show them up by being yourself. (Just for reader info- I am not religious/Muslim)

I own a flowingly  beautiful deep blue scarf. Sometimes I wrap it around my waist like a sarong, just wrap it around my neck. And sometimes I dare wear it over my head. It could be the amazing colour that gets peoples attention.

But take this example;

While at course I had left my scarf at my desk while I was busy doing some work. Some girls from my class were playing with it and mentioned Muslims in a demeaning way.

When a Muslim woman wears her headcover she is not allowed to show any hair, neck and I think even ears but I am not sure.  Western women don’t wear scarfs so rigidly.

All I am trying to say is wearing something should be something you enjoy wearing that is YOU, not dictated by the ignorance of people around you.

Plus there is nothing wrong with Muslims. They are human beings and just like anybody should be treated with respect just like any person- no matter what race, gender, or nationality. Not everybody is a killer. And so it is unfair to assume or make judgements based on these. Judge a person for who THEY are, not what category you choose to associate them with.

 

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The pregger bug

I have observed a trend going on in my tourism class.  In the space of less than 3 months, One by one and now come three young ladies have announced that they are pregnant. It’s like there is a pregger bug or something> they are all succumbing to being young mothers.

At 23 years old, I am older than most of these girls in my class by [only] 2-6 years but it scares me to think people my age, and younger, are pregnant. I just feel so strange, knowing other ladies in a similar age bracket are having children makes me feel bewildered to be totally honest. It makes me think maybe I am not that young [or that We are NOT as young as I perceive us to be]  as maybe I am hitting that age where it is normal for people to have children [when I was a kid I mostly saw middle aged usually married adults with kids- on tv]

I have not grown up with siblings [though I have them] and my usual circle of friends [outside of class] are in a similar point in our lives- developing and focusing on building our future with a career. So building a family or having kids are not even on the radar.. [Which when seeing all these girls pregnant, it makes me think]

They have just finished/left high school… I kinda worry how they do it, I wonder how they will be mothers. I don’t doubt they will be sweet and loving as expected of mothers, but it is so very different from a path from what I would choose.

I am young, independent, career and self focused. I am intent on developing and starting a career for myself in the world of travel so that I can travel and meet people and learn more culture. That is all that is on my mind. The ladies bitten by the pregger bug must be in a different stage in their life, or just things happen and now they have to think more than just about themselves. […and I am fully aware of, I am selfish].

But it also is curious to me to see how other people my age tackle life. Having a kid is a life long commitment and a life changing event. I could not at this stage in my life,  walk that path.

I actually can’t imagine ever having children. It is not feel like it would suit my nature. But maybe they imagined it either till it happened to them.